"Where's My Place?" Liam Payne Reveals His Struggles After Bear Was Born
9 May 2018, 11:30
The 'Familiar' star reveals the struggles of becoming a dad for the first time.
Having a baby is a pretty life-changing experience and Liam Payne has opened up about how he initially found it difficult to know what his role was once he and Cheryl welcomed baby Bear into their family.
Speaking to Legend magazine, Liam revealed, “It changes everything. Sometimes I turn around and I look at him and he’s like a little me. But he’s actually morphing into a lot more of Cheryl’s features now, the more he grows up.
“When he was born, she was like, ‘I carried him for nine months and he’s all bloody you!’ Anyway, you become a lot more caring and responsible.
“Becoming a dad is difficult and I think a lot of people struggle. Dads don’t really speak about it until you’re part of the club and then they’ll go, ‘Oh, wait for this, that’s in the post!’ and you’re all like, ‘Oh, thanks for the warning!’ Fatherhood was totally different to what I expected.
“The difference with being a dad is that you just have to take care of the whole picture at the start. A mother and a child is the most beautiful thing to watch, but they’re the closest thing ever – and you’re close, but you’ll never be as close. Their hearts were beating at the same time at one point, for god’s sake!
“You’re never going to be as close as that. So a lot of dads feel put out, in that sense. I didn’t really feel put out, but I was like, ‘Where’s my place?’ I was desperate to find out what I was meant to do – changing nappies and whatever else.
“For me as a dad, you’re just taking care of everything as much as you can, making sure he’s got a smile on his face. And if you cook for her, she feeds him, so you’re cooking for everyone – that’s what my thing was. As daft as it sounds, cooking actually got me through fatherhood because it made me feel useful, rather than being the guy who just gets handed to change his nappy and make him laugh and giggle.
“That’s a lot of what it is. Women are superhuman. You don’t realise it until they have a baby. They can do a lot of things that, frankly, we can’t.”
After people accused him of being jealous, Liam took to Twitter to clarify his comments:
Never once did I use the word jealous... a relationship between a mother and a newborn is the most beautiful thing I just said I struggled with my place in this and what I could do to become a part of that with not having the same natural maternal instincts as a mum does.— Liam (@LiamPayne) May 8, 2018
Women have amazing almost superhuman powers at this the way they connect with a child is incredible. I just had to find things that helped me benefit and become a part of this beautiful relationship and I think a lot of dads find their feet the same way.— Liam (@LiamPayne) May 8, 2018
Well, from the looks of it – Liam Payne’s got fatherhood down now!