Stitches Shawn Mendes
6 October 2015, 11:39
Rihanna opens up about her relationship with her ex, Chris, and why she’s staying single for the moment.
Rihanna and Chris Brown haven’t been back together since 2012, but the Bajan superstar has opened up about why she will always care about her ex.
Ri and Chris first split back in 2009 after he attacked her in his Lamborghini the night before the Grammy Awards, but got back together briefly in 2012 but Rih’s explained what finally made her realize she had to walk away from the relationship.
She told Vanity Fair, “I was that girl. That girl who felt that as much pain as this relationship is, maybe some people are built stronger than others. Maybe I’m one of those people built to handle s**t like this. Maybe I’m the person who’s almost the guardian angel to this person, to be there when they’re not strong enough, when they’re not understanding the world, when they just need someone to encourage them in a positive way and say the right thing.”
When asked if she though she could change him, Rih admitted, “A hundred percent. I was very protective of him. I felt that people didn’t understand him. Even after … But you know, you realize after a while that in that situation you’re the enemy. You want the best for them, but if you remind them of their failures, or if you remind them of bad moments in their life, or even if you say I’m willing to put up with something, they think less of you—because they know you don’t deserve what they’re going to give.
“And if you put up with it, maybe you are agreeing that you [deserve] this, and that’s when I finally had to say, ‘Uh-oh, I was stupid thinking I was built for this.’ Sometimes you just have to walk away.
“I don’t hate him. I will care about him until the day I die. We’re not friends, but it’s not like we’re enemies. We don’t have much of a relationship now.”
And Rih still considers Chris to be her last real boyfriend, saying that she’s staying single for the moment until she meets a man that matches up to the standards she expects from a partner.
She explained, “I’ve had to be so conscious about people - what they say and why people want to be with me, why people want to sleep with me…. It makes me very guarded and protective. I learned the hard way.
“I always see the best in people. I hope for the best, and I always look for that little bit of good, that potential, and I wait for it to blossom. You want them to feel good being a man, but now men are afraid to be men. They think being a real man is actually being a p***y, that if you take a chair out for a lady, or you’re nice or even affectionate to your girl in front of your boys, you’re less of a man.
“It’s so sick. They won’t be a gentleman because that makes them appear soft. That’s what we’re dealing with now, a hundred percent, and girls are settling for that, but I won’t. I will wait forever if I have to… but that’s OK. You have to be screwed over enough times to know, but now I’m hoping for more than these guys can actually give.
“That’s why I haven’t been having sex or even really seeing anybody, because I don’t want to wake up the next day feeling guilty. I mean I get horny, I’m human, I’m a woman, I want to have sex. But what am I going to do—just find the first random cute dude for the night and then tomorrow I wake up feeling empty and hollow? I can’t do it to myself. I cannot. It has a little bit to do with fame and a lot to do with the woman that I am. And that saves me.
“It is lonely, but I have so much work to do that I get distracted. I don’t have time to be lonely. And I get fearful of relationships because I feel guilty about wanting someone to be completely faithful and loyal, when I can’t even give them 10 percent of the attention that they need. It’s just the reality of my time, my life, my schedule.
"A very extraordinary gentleman, with a lot of patience, will come along when I least expect it. Not on a white horse. Probably on a black motorcycle. And I don’t want it right now. I can’t really be everything for someone. This is my reality right now.”
Decent men of the world, start forming an orderly queue if you want a chance to date Rihanna – she’s definitely worth the effort.
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